An atheist life: Adam’s story

Here’s a short one from Adam in Pennsylvania:

Hello, my name is Adam and I live in PA. I saw recently saw the post on The Good Atheist and decided to share the sorted [sic] road that led me to my lack of faith. First I feel its necessary to explain my family background. Both of my parents are very religious Protestants and my grandmother is a devout Catholic. The rest of my family though is not the least bit religious as they never go to church and find it unnecessary. I myself was very religious in my youth because of my parents influence, and attend 6 years of religious education at a very fundamentalist school, and because of my bisexuality this inevitable led to some deep personal conflicts between my religion and sexuality. Around the age of 12 I began to realize the deep divide between the two parts of myself, at that time I considered myself a christian above all else as the entire close knit community I lived in were all deeply religious and encouraged my Christian activities. It got to the point where I couldn’t even look at myself in the mirror. It wasn’t only the personal conflicts though; it was the entire attitude towards anyone who wasn’t like them, and considering how fundamentalist they were, that was a very select group. Around the age of 14 my family moved and I was taken out of that environment. It was after I moved that I realized that there was more than just Christianity and that there were different options. Around the age of 15 and after much soul searching I concluded there was no god and that religions in general were a waste of time and a horrible lie. My parents recently found out about my atheism about a year and a half ago and have made appalling comments ever since, and considering I’m only 17 and still in high school I can’t leave. They still haven’t told them about my bisexuality and I don’t plan on it until I move out.

Comments (3)

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    JohnFrost

    Wow, seems like a common theme. It’s such a silly thing to be so strident about, too; the whole “God hates fags” thing.

    I remember my mom used to drag us along when she would take care of this missionary’s aging mother. Whenever this woman would make slightly racist comments about black people, my mom would get all embarassed and try to explain to us kids that Mrs. Polly grew up in a different time and just doesn’t understand… I can already see myself explaining the same thing to my kids about grandma’s embarassing homophobia…

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    Ashe

    Thank you for sharing your story. I am 20, only a little older than you, but fortunately my atheism was readily accepted by my father (an atheist himself). I am sorry you feel you have to hide your sexuality from your parents.

    In my opinion, I do not think you should withhold telling them in the hopes that you can feveal the truth after you move out. Is going to college your means of moving out? If so, then you will most likely still be dependant on your parents for support for an additional four years. Do you think you can hide who you are for that long? I am by no means trying to pressure you to tell them before you’re ready. I just hope that I can provide you with a perspective you may not have considered. I wish you well.

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    Adam

    I have considered that perspective and , unfortunately college is not a means of moving out. As you said I still will be dependent on my parents and considering I have 12 years of it ahead of me. I will be dependent a long time. My parents will not accept my sexuality and I don’t want to go through what I did when they discovered my non-belief, only 10x worse.

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